How much sympathy can we really have for him? She gets to sweat out a pregnancy along while he prances around with Leo's castoff.

oh yeah let's let him swoop in and act like Super Dad. Please.

It's his kid- I'm a traditionalist and I believe the child should have his last name, even if it's hyphenated with hers. What's she going to tell him in 15 years? Plus, I'm guessing she'll be cashing in those child support checks.

Why should the kid have Brady's last name when he'll live with his mother? What's she going to tell him in 6 years when he starts school and wants to know why his name is different from mom's? Brady should be thankful she threw in a Thomas for a middle name.

You think, OWO? The kid is constantly going to be reminded that his dad is(/was) a famous football player, so it's not like he won't know he's a Brady. Look, I'm all for women's rights, but it is his child, too, and I don't think she should indiscriminately exclude his name from the mix. Then again, I was married and in love with my husband when I had my kids, so I may not have been in the same place she was. Had he been a bastard or whatever, I may have done the same thing. I'd just like to think I would put my kid's well-being before my own need to be bitchy and right.

How on earth is it a bad thing that she gave the baby her last name? It's quite common for single mothers to do so. The fact that the "source" includes that as reasoning for her "selfishness" is a big red flag that the information given is already extremely biased.

Giving a child your own last name isn't bitchy and putting your own well-being first. Although given the source, I'm not at all surprised by the statement.

If he provides financial support for the child, he has a right to see him. If the mother asks for no child support (she's not exactly poor) and denies him parental rights (murky area as he can claim them in court), he should be able to see the child. The kid is a new born. Not much can be done but as the child grows, it will want to know who his father is. It's a messed up world today. Do what is best for the child and parents should stop hating each other and put their feelings aside for the benefit of the child.

For the record, even women "married and in love with their husband" don't always change their name and their children don't always have Dad's last name either.

I don't think giving him her last name is wrong; I just think he should also have his father's. If the guy's gonna be in his kid's life, then why not? I'm not in the situation so I'm really trying not to judge, but in the thick of things, she may have made the decision more for herself than for him. And who's to say that he won't end up taking custody? Nobody thought that KFed would be the ideal parent, right?

Gosh, Kitchy, so sorry to be so offensive to you. Guess I'm up for another turd in my coffee, huh?

"If the guy’s gonna be in his kid’s life, then why not?"

Lots of the reasons, not the least of which being that not everyone likes hyphenated names.

You're not offensive to me. My "how on earth" paragraph was about the source, not you, and I'm not even offended by that, just turned off by the ignorance.

I hyphenated my last name, but gave my kids their dad's. It's more of a hassle than one would think, and I'm really glad we didn't hyphenate theirs. The only reason I said I was "in love" with my husband is 'cause I'm sure there are plenty of married women who would be more than thrilled for their kids to have nothing to do with their father.

Whew! I'm going to the park. See you on a Britney Spears post.

"Ignorance" is right, by all means. Are we assuming he was around for any of the prenatal care? Not to mention the back pain, weight gain, fat ankles and such? He impregnates her and spends the entire gestation publicly flaunting a trampy supermodel, and NOW he wants to man-up?

The real kick in his teeth are the initials for the kids name: J. E. T.

Sing along if you know the words, "J-E-T-S, Jets! Jets! Jets!"

a. t-dude even brigit would agree that is just an unfortunate coincidence

b. the kid should have her last name, where the hell has king tom been the last 10 months? Europe ect. Edward is tom's middle name, the kid got 2 outta three and I think tom's pretty damn lucky he got that. He was an absentee for the pregnancy but around after the birth (sorta.. the pats ARE NOT giving him any time off so he'll be missing the first 6 months). He deserves time with the kid, but she should not have to see him and should not have to give the kid his name.

I bet the kid will change his name to Brady when he's a teenager, as an act of rebellion. THAT or I hope she raises him to be sensitive and light-in-the-loafers, just to outrage the football community.
That would be fun to watch.

"He deserves time with the kid, but she should not have to see him and should not have to give the kid his name."

I agree. He should have a right to establish a relationship with his child (and again, given the source's obvious bias, I don't so much believe that he wasn't given the opportunity) but that doesn't given an automatic right to have the child bear his last name.

That last sentence of mine is some gorgeous grammar. Thank you. Thank you very much.

aaw kitch, im rubbing off on you…. sorry.

Blame it on jujubees.

That picture of Bridget is highly unfortunate. She looks like Patricia Heaton.

or eva longoria

That source doesn't even begin to pretend it's credible. That's some of the most vague gossip I've ever heard. The guy is using a private jet. The spy is on the West Coast. He saw the baby for "a short time." Why would he want to come see the baby BEFORE it was born? Tom's waiting, and Bridget's not giving any slack. WTF does that even mean. And yeah, that's right, she should have let the little bastard run around without a last name. His first name is unique enough to work just fine.

@lale - you gotta let a woman choose that kinda thing. otherwise i'll never be able to name my child Crispin Glover. It'll have to be like, Crispin Glover Smith. Which sounds like a profession. Or a recipe.

it sounds like a really yummy recipe.

ps. sar, i think i just fell in love with you. can we get married? im all for having a baby named crispin lover, if one of our sons can be Alice Cooper

April I'm flattered but you'll have to ask juju for my hand, as I hypothetically went gay for her, several posts ago.

We can have this kids either way. Whoever bears the child has permission to bestow the last name. However our first 3 are as follows

Crispin Glover
Alice Cooper
Jermajesty

Princess Tiaamii

I call dibs on "Blanket."

Blanket Beckham.

Soooooo I am sort of annoyed at this post, but I am too lazy to type out why. Then again, I could have the opportunity to get BestCorded…what to do, what to do?

Please, Lisa. Indulge me. Type it out.

Tom Brady should thank his lucky stars that she didn't name that kid Frederick Ulysees Thomas Brady.

Other than the whole slanted twist to the story, I'm annoyed by calling her a "mother-to-be." And not just because Bunnie forgot the hyphens.

The baby's born. She's not "to be" a mother. She already is.

I call dibs on Frederick Ulysees Thomas Brady.

Beckham.

And Bridge had every right to be feeling a teense bitter right now. Sure, it's Tom's kid too, but let's see how much time he actually puts into the care and feeding. He'll throw some crazy gifts that kid's way at birthdays and Christmas, but she will be the one to kiss the boo-boos and do potty training.

Damn it! I had a good 7 pointed response going! Why oh why did it re-load automatically? I guess I will re-hash and add some more:

1) give her a break, she just gave birth and is probably tired and hormonal.She can be a little nuts.

2) Why does she owe Brady any face time? So what if she did't want to see him before or after the pregnancy. She doesn't owe him anything, at this point, and unless and until his interaction changes, he is littlemore than a sperm donor. Also, she was probably exhausted.

3)She let him see John Edwards once why the assumption that she won't again? Again, she is still recovering, and if she doesn't want to see Brady that is fine. Too bad for him that she hasn't seen fit to take care of his needs before her own.

4) So what if she is still bitter, she gets to be. Being a mother doesn't turn you into a saint. Interestingly enough there is no such expectation for men who have become fathers.

5) "What a bitter, resentful, overbearing and spiteful mother…" Mother? I think you mean woman, I doubt in a week John Edwards feels that he is already overbearing.

6) Why is she resentful and spiteful? Because she won't let him see John Edwards? Well, see point 4 above. Also, as I said she is probably still tired and hormonal. Post pregnancy behavior is neither indicitive nor predictive of future behavior and only a fool would think so.

7) If it is because of the whole name thing - the kid is a bastard. So what if Brady wants to give the bastard his name - I would think he needs a good reason. Just becasue he acknowledged the child as his should not mean that he gets the honor of having the child bear his name. Thinking so not only takes the father in consideration more than the mother, but it is patriarchal and not progressive at all. (I hope to give my children my name, married or not.)

7) You make assumptions based on behavior of Moynahan and Brady. You assume that she is a bitch and that he is just trying to work it out and see his kids. Pretty freaking biased.

8) Speaking of assumptions, how do you know Brady wants to go on this "journey"? Becasue he wants to see his kid? All men do - even the men who get bored after a year and then start their "real" families, forgetting all about the new toy they had with the woman they didn't marry. Based on behavior alone this is a startling assumption - since he hasn't been around. He hasn't tried to patch things up, hasn't fought for or set up visitation before the kid was married. There is little to no indication that he has been preparing for or is interested in this "journey."

9) Again, you assume that Moynahan will be a bitter old rag who will pass on this anger to her kid (or becuase she is angry and bitchy he will be angry at her). That is pretty astounding given what you are working with. Many, many single mothers don't like their exes, but try as best they can to keep that from the kids. Some don't. I just find it interesting that you assume she will be in the latter category, especially when you assume that Brady will turn into the best option of possible behavior.

10) Um, so why is he inheriting his father's physical prowess and not his mother's acting talent? Interesting.

And I'm spent!

I think I just had a tiny little orgasm.

I'm sorry Kitchy but I have to correct you. My mom is a Mother, and so is my aunt, and Motherhood doesn't start until several weeks after the birth of a child. Do I need to post a diagram? :)

I agree with evil twin. It's unjust to give Tom credit for fathering the child - an act which took a few moments and was strictly for his pleasure, further evidenced by the probable disregard for condom use. A man who goes around getting people pregrant is irresponsible, and that doesn't change after a kid is born. If a man doesn't deserve the respect of a mother or her child, it makes no sense to honor that man by using his name.

YES! LISA! Point 4, that's what I was trying to say!

"I’m sorry Kitchy but I have to correct you. My mom is a Mother, and so is my aunt, and Motherhood doesn’t start until several weeks after the birth of a child. Do I need to post a diagram? :)"

So it must start about the same time as producing milk.

I hope you knew I was kidding!

Yes it starts the same time as milk comes in, although for vegetarians, they start to produce soy milk.

Well yeah or I would've debated it, not made a reference to rachel. *lol*

Wow Lisa! You're gonna make me say "dayum" again!

SAR, I agree that she gets the choice. I guess I'm sensitive to it all 'cause my brother (half) hasn't seen his dad since he was 4- the guy got involved in all the wrong stuf and just left. I've seen how hard it is on him not to have the connection. Now this is a totally different case, yes. But Bridget and Tom were together for a while, so it's not like it was a one-thrust deal. And of course she's probably a super mess right now- I sure as hell would be if my ex was with his new model girlfriend. That's why I'm trying not to judge. It's just hard, because I maintain that the boy is gonna be constantly reminded that he's Tom Brady's son. Let me put it this way: Would Sean Stewart be half as important if his name was Sean O'Brien?

p.s. Before I inspire even more ire, that was a joke. And is his name Sean? I don't even know. Gosh, call me Rachel today. I'm just going to watch Maury: Which of these Halloween Honeys is Really a Man?" Um, the one with the adam's apple and dick?

Lale: the correct answer for Maury is always the hottest one. The hottest one is always a dude.

Okay, Lisa, I'm gonna put that theory to the test. That is, if I can get past Maury in a Flava Flav outfit. I might have to switch to… Oh my God, you're right. There is one hot mama up there, strutting her stuff, and she's totally a dude. Wow, it's actually confusing. I can't tell if one is an ugly girl or a dude! But the hot one is certainly a boy.

It all comes down to the personality of the host. Maury - well he is always trying to "teach" something. He is all about inclusiveness and getting along. The hot tranny is meant to shatter preconceptions. Now if it were Springer, the hot one would be the tranny that the second hottest one's boyfriend left her for. Also, the tranny and the actual woman would be cousins. Or sisters. Or father/daughter, mother/son.

Friggin Lisa saying what I would have if I had the mental capacity too. Whoa is me. Maybe Cord could try giving birth and then see how tolerant he would be to go through all that and then try and be humble to let Tom in.

You just want some peace and quiet. It's very emotional. Maybe things will change in a few weeks.

I don't know Sar I was kind of thinking of these names for our children

Rosie Hasselhoff Hilton
Perez Seacrest Jackson
Lindsay Britney Dick
Or if it's a boy
Goldenbunnieballs Jr.

Juju - Lindsay Britney Dick is my favorite. I don't mean name - I mean that's my favorite child. You can take the rest to grandma's on extended vacation.

lale - Well, right off, it should be said that there IS NO half-as-important as Sean Stewart already is. Just sayin'. Seriously, you're right that he probably wouldn't be as famous. But how important is he to his father? I think that's the only question. I don't know how it will turn out for the kid… Tom brady might end up being a really involved and loving dad. And yeah this kid is gonna know every waking moment that Tom brady is his father. But my guess is that brady is goign to keep acting the same way, and the kid isn't going to want to feel that pain every time he signs for UPS.

Potato, pototto.

Damnit! Almost 5 and still no BestCord. I have faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaailed!

I'm guessing even Bunnie couldn't come up with any arguments to your points, Lisa.

Don't walk away in anger. It was a valiant attempt. I really felt what you were saying. If Cord doesn't best a post, does it mean it was a tree in a forest or, something like that.

I thought that if the couple wasn't married, it was traditional for the woman to give the baby her name. Nothing necessarily petty about it. They aren't married, so why should the boy have his name?

I also think Bridget was probably very emotional, happy, sad to be giving birth alone, afraid she might cry in front of Tom, etc. I can't imagine that on the day she gave birth for the first time she was sitting there stewing in anger. Maybe she didn't trust herself not to be overly-emotional around Tom. Whatever, I think that is her decision and she gets to make it.

I also really wouldn't want to breastfeed in front of a guy I didn't like much and had broken up with before I even knew I was pregnant. I wouldn't want to walk around with my IV pole with my ass hanging out of my johnny, either. Or have a nurse come and check my 'roids.

I think you are right. That's just a time you want the people you love supporting you. Having him in the room would probably bring back bad feelings. Feelings you wouldn't really want to deal with at that moment.

lol, roids. I missed that joy.

I don't even like having my in-laws in the room while I breastfeed. Once I'm home, I don't care who's around. But in the hospital I'm very private.

It is so hard to keep your dignity when you business is on public display and everyone is walking in and out of the room. Come on in, everybody get a look at my babychute.

Watch, I can still shoot out a ping pong ball!

lol @ babychute. I keep pictuing a baby in a parachute floating down from the sky.

You mean that's not where babies come from?

That's what the doctor told me. Maybe it was the morphine talking?