Queen Latifah has recently taken a stand against adopting foreign children. She says she wants to adopt 18 kids (just 'cause you can afford it doesn't mean it's a good idea, Queen), but she stresses that she'd like to adopt American children.
Queen Latifah wants to adopt 18 kids, but unlike Madonna and Angelina, she won't be leaving the country to do it.
During a revealing interview with Ellen Degeneres, her majesty said, "I want to adopt an American baby ... there's just so many kids that could use a home." While Latifah says she completely understands why Americans would want to go outside the states, she would still rather "help a kid in the hood."
Good for her. American orphans are just as desperate for good homes as children born into foreign strife. I've often wondered why Angelina constantly looks out of the country when adopting, especially since foreign adoptions are more expensive and procedurally strict.
But, Queen Latifah, if you decide to go foreign, I say you look to the Bahamas. I hear there's an orphan there that is really, really, really in need of a good home and a guardian who isn't a murderous lawyer.
Was that blind enough of a blind item?
I agree. I think a lot of these celebs think it's somehow more tasteful to adopt a black baby if it's straight from Africa...What about all the babies here that need homes (and that you don't have to pay thousands and thousands of dollars for)?
It's about time somebody spoke up about this issue!! You go Queen Latifah!! Come adopt me, I want to live like a rock star!!
Here's an idea... if you don't like a certain blogger's opinion, don't visit the site anymore!
Online petitions carry no credibility, anyway. And even if they did, I would guess that a third of the 75 people you are so proud of having signed your petition are making fun of you. You have way too much time on your hands. Have fun with that golden shower fantasy while you wait for the next post.
I'm not sure I understand that blind item.... Did I miss something in the news this week?
OMG John Santos...Give it up. you're giving the website more hits which gives them more credability. Just go away ya big freak or do you like the attention of being a whiner?
The reason celebs adopt foreign kids:
It's probably easier to adopt from a poor country than it is here. American adoption agencies don't like to give kids to single parents, gays, or people over a certain age. Not that it can't be done, but it's very difficult.
Also, Queen makes a good point, but notice how she says 'baby'? there are also many CHILDREN (not infants) who need homes. But everyone wants a baby that is fresh and 'untainted'.
^ You can get kids without taints now???? I'm not sure what the appeal is, seems like more work actually.
Go away, John Santos!
You go, Queen Latifah! Yes, I think that she ought to adopt baby Danni-Lynn...One GOOD mother should compensate for the lack of a LEGITIMATE father!
Betty, I think you are right. I remember reading somewhere (and I think it was Angelina) about a star who said she would love to adopt an American kid, but it is just too hard. I mean, imagine, withMadonna's sex book, or Angie's blood vial necklace - I doubt those ladies would have had an easy time. That being said, sometimes the easiest road isn't the best.
18 children? Doesn't matter where she is adopting them from. What matters is how much attention she'll be able to give each of them. I mean yeah, it would be super cool to be taken care of financially for the rest of your life (or at least until you are 18), but without love and supervision you spawn Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, and Nicole Richie. I don't think the world needs 18 more immoral socialites and hipsters.
2, maybe 3 kids is enough to adopt over a span of a few years.
Maybe, just maybe, kids in third world countries might need the help more urgently than orphans here in the States. After all, America is the richest country in the world. I'm pretty sure the living conditions in a nursing home in Africa are much worse than those found here in America. When you have an entire continet that is slowly disappearing due to civil wars, famine and AIDS... I'll try to help those orphans first. Just my opinion.
Hey, bystander, my mom and dad had 8 of us, and we all turned out fine; very close-knit, we all still get along, half of my brothers are volunteer firefighters, 3 of us did military time (I did 20), well-educated. Lohan is 1 of 4, Paris is 1 of 4, and Nicole is a single.
You can't arbitrate a time span and a number. It's not how many kids you have, it's what you instill in them. Lots of us in big families have a BETTER sense of responsibility because our parents depended on us to help each other. And our kids are all close, and my granddaughter is close in age to my youngest brother's kids, and they are all close. There are about 50 of us when we all get together, yet we feel the absence if one of my brothers is overseas or someone can't make the event. There's always someone there for us, no matter what time of night or day. I feel sorry for those of you that don't have a large, close-knit family. Props to the Queen; I think she has a heart big enough to pull it off.
The reason not to adopt a kid from the US is that you don't get to just adopt. It takes many years, costs a fortune for adoption attorneys, and usually involves years of 'fostering' a child. Then before you get to finalize the adoption, the crackhead mom or her mom or some other relative gets out of jail and wants the kid for the welfare benefits and you have to give back your baby.
Frankly, I don't get it. I never understood the concept of telling a person where they should adopt from. It's a personal decision.
My question is when did it become okay to tell people where they should or shouldn???t adopt from? Isn???t the decision to raise a child one of the most important and personal decisions a person makes? Imagine if everyone was telling Heidi Klum while she was pregnant ???Oh you should have a girl??? or ???Oh if you don???t have girl, you should try again and this is the hospital you should give birth in???!!!
Would it be okay to tell a mother who is pregnant what gender their child should be and if it isn???t a female, then she should try again? Or if it isn???t a boy, they should try again?
What gives every person in the world the right to open their mouths and start handing out advice on where people should adopt from? Is it because the child is not biologically linked to their adoptive parent and therefore (in some wierd way) becomes the topic of public discourse on what should be done with that child?
Is there a committee that people have to go to now and ask for approval on which country it would be politically correct and socially acceptable to adopt from to please the likes of the Queen Latifa's of the world?
(nothing personal against Queen Latifa).
How do you tell a mother where she should adopt from? You adopt the child that you see and become instantly attached to and feel connection towards, right?
Most celebs adopt from the United States but yet this statement keeps coming up. What are we so afraid of in the United States? We are a strong, rich and "use to be" caring country. Shouldn't we be applauding when any child is adopted. I frankly think statements like this makes the American people look bad. I used to read with pride when Americans would go to other parts of the world that were worst off and help. Now we seem to be saying that "American kids are as bad off as kids in Africa or Why are we donating to Pakistan when New Orleans needs money". We need to set our priorities straight in this country and it does not start ragging on Angelina or Madonna.
Sharon Stone has three adopted boys, Calista Flockhart has an adopted son, Tom and Nicole have 2 adopted kids and Rosie O'Donnell has 3 or 4 adopted kids but no one says anything because they are American babies. When Madonna and Angelina adopt from poor countries it's a "Hollywood trend" and they're "shopping for kids"
vikingwench- I totally agree with you. It is what you instill in your kids that shapes them.
I still have a problem with this new trend of celebrities adopting children like trophies, and taking care of them via nannies, and only spending quality time with their children during photo ops. The only thing these kids are learning is that they have more money than most, and when they get older they will only think of themselves as a commodity.
I'm sure everything you have said about your family is true, but only because your parents were there for you consistently, and didn't pass you off to a nanny during unbearable moments.
What I should have said before is, I'm not a big fan of celebrity adoption. Especially not in mass. Whether she adopts them all at once, or over the course of a few years, there is no way The Queen will able to instill in 18 children the values that will make them normal functioning members of society. Especially not in this era of gossips and blogs.
what you guys and Dyke Latifah (and i say that with much love) know about adoption Stateside could fit in a bottle.
it is MUCH more difficult to adopt an American child.
Malawi has little to no laws on adoption.
Dyke Latifah (and i say that with much love) seriously needs to STFU. or put her fat-assed money where her mouth is and adopt 18 HIV-infected children. American ones of course.
lol- Amen to that Celia.
Domestic adoption is cheaper than foreign adoption? I don't know where you got THAT. The most expensive figure I've ever seen quoted to adopt internationally was about $25,000. I think for domestic adoptions you're supposed to expect to spend at least $40,000.
And, frankly, the "adopt Americans first" attitude disgusts me. In other words, it seems that you're saying that an American kid, who is probably living in a foster home, is more deserving and in need of a home than a kid in an understaffed third world orphanage. Nice.
Most countries ARE easier and cheaper to adopt from than America. You don't want to adopt from South America, though, because there's a huge black market for kids kidnapped from villages and passed off as orphans.
And, while some orphans may be in more need than others, I agree with London07: they are all in need of good homes. I don't think there's anything less noble about giving an American child a family just because he's not starving to death. He's still a human being in need of love and care. Any family that chooses to provide that to any child are heroes in my book.
It doesn't cost 40k to adopt in the us if ur willing to take a kid in the foster care system. Yeah, you can wait for a really long time and spend a lot of $$ to get an "untainted" caucasian baby via private adoption, or you can have your pick of "tainted" children who may have special needs emotionally or physically and who, while still a child who needs a home and has a lot of love to give, is the "wrong" color and/or age. There's a lot of heartbroken 5yr olds out there because they know they're "too old" to be adopted. I know what I'm talking about, I have 5 family members who have foster kids and three of them have adopted. BTW, they're all single, don't have a lot of extra money and a bit older, but they have love.
Um...hello? Would-be parents are clamouring over each other to adopt babies in this country...by doing that she would just be cheating other people who can't have their own kids for biological reasons... It's the foreign babies who need homes.
I am grateful to Queen Latifah for bringing the issue and the need of homes for children in the U.S. Hopefully, she will follow through. There are so many children and not enough homes.
It is much more expensive to adopt from another country. The children from other countries would fall under the same conditions as the "tainted" children from the US. There they are orphans. You have no idea of exposure to substances, mental problems due to lack of care in orphanages, or a medical family history. What you do have, is the ease of the greed of money. The person with the most money gets the child and gets the child faster passing through what normal income people would have to go through in so many steps. With Madonna, you heard about the orphanage she is building. The orphanages ask for a donation when you adopt a child from there. Most of the money is never actually seen by the orphanages, which is why they lack in care. However, there is also a guarantee that the parent (s) aren't going to seek the child out, or cause a problem. There is somewhat of a guarantee that once the papers are done, it's over.
Private adoption in the US can range in prices. Most to do with fees to the agency. With the push toward open adoption many are uncomfortable with the prospect of having a birth parent in and out of the child's life, and their lives. More agencies are going toward the birth mother choosing the adoptive couple. Two couples can be on the list. One for four years, another two weeks. If the birth parent picks the couple that has only been waiting for two weeks, that is the way it works. People also must think of putting forth the money and if a birth parent changes their mind, it's non-refundable. However, there are still no guarantees for a perfect child. Not even in a birth child. Every child has problems to overcome.
As for Foster Care, there are various types of homes. Foster only, Foster to adopt, and adopt only homes. You do have to show that you meet financial criteria of being able to take care of yourself and your family. So that it is assured that you aren't using the children for the money.
Some children are perfect, some have family medical histories that will effect them later in life, some have been exposed to substances, some have been abused in some form.
However, these children in the US need a home. It comes down to nature vs. nurture. If you can give a child a loving home, then you've already given them the best thing and changed their lives, their future. Once parental rights are terminated, they are out of the picture completely. There is no "open" adoption in these cases.
When you hear of a newborn being left at a police station, a fire station, etc where do you think they go? Foster care. Ten fingers, ten toes... perfect and in care.
While there are special needs children there are two types. Children that are classified that because of their age, race, and the amount of siblings they have, and then there are children that are medically fragile.
You are given a choice as to the type of children you will accept. The age range. The substance exposure, and the list goes on and on.
Once you've finished your studies to become a foster parent and are approved, the wait time is unpredictable. In most cases there are so many children that come into care and not enough homes. So you can receive a phone call within days for a child that needs a parent to love them.
I hope that Queen Latifah takes on this issue, and brings it to the forefront of the media, and the public. It's about time that America's children were thought of and considered a positive experience.
Angelina is the UNHCR Goodwill Ambassador, so it would make sense that foreign born children would be a primary interest to her. I am sure she doesn't hate American orphans, and it's great to have an example of a black woman wanting to adopt a black child, since they make up the largest percentage of children needing homes. I question 18 as a realistic family for any person.
Cheers, let's hope it starts a ground swell.
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